You’ve heard the saying, live in the moment. Most people focus on what has happened or what will happen, even what they have to do. Because of the stress and anxiety that comes from these mindsets, they fail to focus on the now.

Why live in the moment for a boudoir photoshoot?

Boudoir photography is about so much more than beautiful photos. We design your photoshoot to empower you. During it, you will rediscover your confidence, strength and natural beauty.

To get the maximum benefit from your experience, you’ll want to stay present mentally. It is easy to start thinking about the photos, or how surprised someone will be when you share them. You might start thinking about what has to be done after the session, where you are headed, what you will be doing …

When you slow down and focus on the moment, the impact will have a much greater affect. That is why I don’t often offer mini-sessions at the studio. I want to give each client the time to bask in the feeling of her radiance. I never rush anyone out of the studio.

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What does living in the moment mean?

You’ll hear the phrases:

  • Live in the moment,
  • live in the now,
  • live like there’s no tomorrow,
  • live like it is the last day of your life.

When you learn how to live in the moment and focus on the now, you will lead a fuller life. You’ll be able to appreciate the small details and beauty of everything around you.

It takes practice to live in the moment on a consistent basis. So as you prepare for your boudoir photoshoot, try practicing these simple ideas too:

1. Focus on what you are doing

How many times have you looked at people to see their nose buried in their phone? Or reading while watching television?

Distractions pull us away from what we are doing, making it impossible to focus on the now. It is time to shut the distractions down and think about the moment we are in right now.

What do you smell? What do you see? Look for the details around you, what are they? What are you doing? How do you feel? What sensations are you experiencing? What are you thinking about these things?

Savoring life in the moment by practicing mindfulness reduces stress. Studies say it also can boost your immune system, lower your blood pressure and be beneficial to your mental health.

So set aside some time each day to focus on the moment and what you are doing. Whenever you stress, slow down and do it again. Repeated practice will have you living in the moment much more often.

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2. Appreciate the small things

Being thankful for small the small pleasures in life helps you live more positive experiences. Pay attention to these small things that make you happy. Maybe it is listening to music, or scratching a pet behind the ears. Little things can make a big difference in how you feel.

3. Smile more often

Smiling can make you and those around you feel better. Some scientist got paid to do a study that revealed if we feel happy, we smile. If we smile, it makes us feel happy. Our brains apparently associate how we feel with how we react.

I’m not certain we needed a scientific study to tell us that, but it is out there. So take it to heart and smile more often! You’ll feel better and be living in the moment.

4. Be thankful

Remember to stop for a moment every day and think about how good things are. Even when you are having a bad day, or things seem hopeless, there are things to be thankful for.

When someone makes you smile or does something nice, no matter how small, thank them for being a part of your life. Tell them how much they mean to you. They will feel better and so will you. It will tighten the bonds of your relationships.

When your workload gets heavy, instead of complaining, say thanks. That job puts food on your table and allows you to live your lifestyle, so be thankful instead of resentful for more work!

If you think it, say it right then. That is living in the moment with a thankful and positive mindset.


5. Don’t worry, be happy

The Bobby McFerrin song was catchy and became a hit, but the advice isn’t as easy as it sounds.

There was a story of a man who was going to buy a house. He went to the bank to see what the loan payment would be and if he’d qualify. For the next 22 years he paid the mortgage payment on time each month, even if he had to scrape and not eat at times.

One month he was short, so he asked a friend if he could loan him some money for his mortgage payment. His friend said, you don’t own a house.

That’s worry. You are paying on loan you never received. Worrying about what will happen won’t change what is going to happen.

It is impossible to worry and live in the moment at the same time. Instead of worry, focus on how you can change things to make them better now. That is living in the moment.

Practice these five tips each and every day. Then, when you come to the boudoir studio, you’ll be able to fully experience and appreciate the session. You will get more out of it, you will feel better and you will have beautiful images to boot!

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