Owning your sexuality is an empowering feeling

Embracing or owning your sexuality means being confident and comfortable with your sexual desires and activities. It requires letting go of shame and accepting that sexual needs are biological in nature.

Unfortunately there is a lot of stigma around sex. That can make it difficult for people to embrace this aspect of themselves.

People judge if you are a “prude” or “tramp.” Men who sleep around are “studs.” Women who sleep around are “sluts.” With double standards and mixed messages, it is hard to embrace your body and express your sexuality in a positive way.

Human beings are sexual and there should be no shame or judgement about a fact of nature. It is up to you to feel confident in your mind, body and soul about your feelings and desires.

How to embrace your sexuality


1. Realize you don’t need someone else

Relationships are important but you need to develop one with yourself first. Work on accepting your body, caring for yourself and becoming a happy person. This will free you to be open to positive relations with others.

2. Make yourself feel good

Treat yourself to things that help you to feel confident, beautiful and sensual. It may mean putting on some tunes, drinking some wine and dancing with yourself.

Maybe you can take a luxurious bubble bath or a long walk. Buy yourself a new outfit that makes you look hot. There are a lot of self-care tips that can help you feel amazing. So take some time to focus on your physical body and bask in those senses.

3. Experience contact

Human contact is essential for people to experience. Hugs and massages, even if just platonic or therapeutic helps you to feel better. By exposing yourself to touch, you become comfortable with it. Don’t isolate yourself, your body craves this type of connection.

4. Get naked

The human body is an amazing thing, yet most people don’t even take the time to look at themselves. There can be feelings of shame, insecurity and downright embarrassment looking at yourself nude. Why is looking at yourself nude so taboo?

Look in the mirror and silence the inner critic. Instead, focus on what you like about yourself. Stretch marks from a pregnancy? They aren’t a flaw, they are an amazing reminder that your body created new life. A scar? A reminder of how your body healed itself. Large thighs? They get you around and let you live your life.

The more you see yourself naked, the more comfortable you will become with your body. This will help you see it in a more positive way.

5. Learn what you like.

Acknowledge your desires even if you think they are insane or embarrassing. Slowly start to affirm these needs, even if a partner is not involved. The more you understand your desires and put them into play, the better you will feel.

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6. Don’t listen to society’s standards

The media and others try to tell us how and what sex should be. But sexuality is different for everyone, it is a complex things that is constantly evolving.

Ignore their standards and set your own. If their ideas don’t fit your needs or wants, reject them.

7. Consider a boudoir photoshoot

Stepping out of your comfort zone for a boudoir photoshoot can be life changing. The resulting photos will help you to rediscover your beauty and see your sexuality shining through.

If you read reviews of boudoir sessions, clients talk about how confident they feel following the photo shoot. It is a confidence they rekindle every time they look at their photos.

Clients get boudoir photos for a variety of reasons. Some give the images to their significant other as a gift. Others keep the photos to remind themselves of their beauty, desirability and courage.

There are even those who share the images on social media to share with other women the experience of empowerment. A way to help and encourage their sisters who may be working toward owning their sexuality.

Sexuality is less about the actual act of having pretty good sex … much more about surrounding yourself with an ever simmering sensual energy, pulsing just underneath your daily life and infusing almost everything you do.

– Sera Beak

It’s time to start owning your sexuality

You deserve to feel confident, comfortable and pleasure. The best gift you can give yourself is the courage to know, accept and take control of your sexuality. The steps I’ve outlined are a start on this amazing adventure.

My sexuality is not an inferior trait that needs to be chaperoned by emotionalism or morality.

– Alice Bag

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